Never again

I think we all feel better when we understand why something is happening. We can put up with a lot of inconvenience as long as we know the reason for the things that happen. I am hoping, now, to find some explanation for the things that are happening now. That will make me much more able to accept it. I may discover that there is no logical way to justify what’s happening….. May be its one of those days I want to forget abt..

remember…

Remember, when the world pushes you to your knees, you’re in the
perfect position to pray.

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.

If you make people think they’re thinking, they’ll love you; But if you really make them think, they’ll hate you.

Education is a progressive discovery of our own ignorance

Sometimes it good to read something like this…

Money and faith are the real two motivators.

The greatest sin is to think ourself as weak.

You see things and say: WHY? But I dream of things that never were, and say: WHY NOT?

People with passion automatically tend to be innovative.

Failure does not necessarily mean that the cause you were fighting for was not worth it….Che Guevara [Worlds greatest ever revolutionary]

What is essential in th eexistence of a man of my type is what he thinks and how he thinks and not what he does or how he suffers…Albert Einstein.

You can fail ur way to success….even Napoleon lost one third of all the important battles he fought.

It is not just about winning friends; It’s also about driving people and friends towards that higher levels of efforts.

When nothing seems to help, I go and look at a stonecutter hammering away at his rock, perhaps a hundred times, without as much as a crack showing in it. Yet, at the
hundred-and-first blow it will split in two, and I know it was not that blow that did it but all that had gone before.

At first people refuse to believe that a strange new thing can be done, then they begin to think it can’t be done. Then they see it can be done. Then it is done and all the world wonders why it was not done before…

Its only words. And words are all I have to take your heart away..” – BoyZone

And last….whenever I hear about the death of a person known to me, I think:

” What was I left with? Death is a Great leveller..Just when you think everything is under your control, it comes like a slap from someone up there to tell you, “Look! In this universe the earth itself is such a tiny identity, and within that invisible tiny identity you are a tinier microscopic identity- don’t think too much of yourself”. And suddenly you realise that the persom you loved most is no more and you can’t even apologise for the mistakes you committed….this can happen to anybody, anytime…”

A great weekeend…in everyway

A great weekeend…in everyway

Yes…its a grt weekend to talk abt and to write abt…planned for a movie and waited for the sunday to come … at PVR…Sarkar…the Bachan’s movie… I hoped that I like it especially after reading the book and the watching the ‘GodFather’……

The weekend started perfectly with some TT at office on a friday evening till about 9PM…..[ gosh…this is not the place where we need to hang out on a friday evening…nah nah] and then out for dinner with a couple of my friends at Queens on St.Mark’s Road…. When I went back home, I remembered that I forgot to come back home by 9 to watch ABCD on *Movies….one of those movies that I like to watch….

Then came Saturday….after a loooong time I bent my back to clean up my place….and mom is happy to see me helping her after a long time…and in the evening, its her turn to treat me ….

And here is the Sunday that I am waiting for … the only day in the week that I like. And we are 8 of us who planned to watch Sarkar. And it took us grt planning and coordination to make sure that we know where others are in that big mall so that we are not going late to the movie…. 🙂 🙂 🙂 One got lost at Pizzahut, the other one in the lift and the other in Mac Donlaod’s…. then I thought we should have a GPRS locator for each of us to find where others are…. hmmm…thats not a bad idea, I guess.

Now, its time to grab something to fill this bechara stomach and we stepped into Mac Donald’s….cool place to eat and we had a filling lunch over there…..

After some late entries, who joined us at around 2PM, we stepped in to the theatre. This is the first time, I am watching a movie in PVR…and its really good because of some grt company with me. Its not a dull movie….Big B is in good form now a days…and verma did well to make sure that we watch the screen every minute and not the ones [ofcourse…gals] who are sitting around us….. yeah…there are some pretty girls around. I thinks its not that boring to sit for 3hrs and watch a hindi movie….if it can make u think rather than make u throw ur eyes at other stuff around … or make u think about ur office work that u need to do the next day…

And after the dishum dishum and dhada dhad of the movie, we thought of having a cup of coffee at coffee day.. As usual there is ‘no vacancy’ in Coffee Day… and then we parked ourselves at Transit. Its fun with the gang seeing them enjoying the moments even if u r not in to that…Just be with them and watch them. It helps a lot even if u r quiet and observe others….Being quiet is also a powerful way of communication sometimes….. U can even spend time doing nothing but only if u r with someone whom u like…..[just a small touch of philosophy…. 🙂 🙂 ]

Yep…Its time for everyone to say ‘tata’…’cheerio’..’bye bye..’ . I hope everyone enjoyed the day and we continue to do this….And a couple of us stayed back to do some window shopping….but we actually bought something at the end of the day. During this… I had set my eyes on the cute Altec-Lansing speakers for my iPod…and its next in my wishlist. Then, the fun started. I need to drop my friend off to a place from where he can take a rick back home….and it started pouring. By the time..I was at home, I was completely drenched and in a state where i cant imagine anything other than a shower with hot water….and a hot dinner…

And I had one last thought for the day….have u ever thought…how amazing, sometimes, how two people can look at the same thing from the same angle and form two totally different impressions. Or how they can discuss the same matter – clearly and comprehensively, yet each recall deeply contrasting conclusions to the same conversation….any ideas????

Motivation…..

MOTIVATION:

Motivation …. its a different cup of tea altogether. It is not just about winning friends; it’s also about driving people and friends towards higher levels of efforts on any job in hand (at home, in the club or at the office).

Have you ever wondered how a two year old kid on his birthday party has his eyes fixed on the birthday cake? And given the first opportunity jumps on the cake and smudges it all over his face. The same boy at the age of eight takes a big piece of cake and goes slyly to one corner of the houst and eats it up. If by chance his sister comes asking for a bite, he spits on the piece of the cake and says that it has become dirty and she cannot haveit! At the age of fifteen, thoug, he carefully couts out a big piece and goes towards his sister and gives it to her best friend standing next to her. Needless to mention that this friend is a girl.

At another age, as the President of a large corporation, now a big man, he spends time ordering a big five-storeyed cake which rolls on into the party in a big trolley. He cuts the cake but seems hardly interested in eating it or giving it to his secretary standing next to him [his wife obviously would not take it nicely]. As an old man, he does not even remember his birthday. His children and his grandchildren remember, celebrate, cut a cake and give him the biggest piece. He, however, spots a little doll in th eparty and gives the piece to her, sees her spoil her clothes while trying to eat the cake, and he enjoys the scene.

The same cake…different motives…Motivation is all about finding out the need inside a person, which, if satisfied, will make him exert high levels of efforts. Once identified, all a good leader needs to do is satisfy it and see his people performing at high levels of productivity.

Enhancing Relationships

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, “Public Utilities Board.” There was silence. She repeated, “PUB.” There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady’s voice, “Oh, so this is PUB.Sorry, I got the number from my Husband’s pocket but I do not know whose
number it is.”

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just “hello” instead of “PUB”.

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NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?”
The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than
you.”

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

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CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested “I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.” The SDU officer said, “Your requirements, please.” “Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my
leisure hour, if I don’t go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.” The officer listened carefully and replied, “I understand you need television.”

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband ,because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

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NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person’s character.”

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.

It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

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RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that “A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.” Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,”Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.” On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, “Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.” She answered ,”You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you.”

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It’s like a broken egg – cannot be reversed.

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PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man’s meat could be another man’s poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home,a boy commented, “Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey?”Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, “The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?” Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, “How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.”
The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, “Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.” Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

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BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, ” Daddy,I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?” The father went home & committed
suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can’t. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.